Episode 55 | Practice Self Love with Boundaries

If you want to make changes in your life, one of the first challenges is to set boundaries for yourself and in your relationships. The second challenge is to respect those boundaries and insist others do as well.

On this episode we talk all about boundaries. Boundaries are limits. They are the fences we put up to keep ourselves emotionally safe in relationships. We need them when our boss emails at 8 pm at night expecting a response. We need them when someone says something that makes us uncomfortable. We need them when we say we aren't eating chocolate and our BFF shows up with our favourite chocolate bar.

Are you saying yes when you mean yes?

Are you saying no when you mean no?

If you are you probably have good boundaries in place. One of the biggest challenges women face in boundaries is expecting other people to respect our boundaries. It starts with us. We have to respect our boundaries first!

Here are just some of the big lessons we share in this episode:

1. Don’t expect other people to know your boundaries. You have to verbalize them. (He's not a mind reader!)

2. Stop spending time with people who don’t respect your boundaries. And tell them why you aren't spending time with them.

3. Practice setting boundaries - with a friend if needed.

4. Learn to be OK with disappointing people. When you set boundaries you will disappoint people. Remember: The only people who get upset when you set boundaries are the people who benefited from you having none.

5. Set them early or set them as soon as you become aware you need one.It is never too late to set boundaries in a relationship.

6. Reframe boundaries - see them as self-respect, protecting your well-being and joy so you can be present to what is really important.

This episode is a rich discussion on the lessons we have learned in our life and leadership around boundaries. If you have struggled to set boundaries or felt like you didn't get the respect you wanted you will find this episode helpful in reframing boundaries.

Episode 54 | Cea Sunrise Person talks about her life reframe

As adults a lot of us have had to go back to our childhood and do some reframing. We do that by looking back using the lens of an adult and realizing that we had done the only thing we could do as children - processed our experiences as children. For some of us we blamed ourselves for things that happened that were not our fault. As we look at our childhood through the lens of an adult we can reframe our experience differently and for many of us that brings healing. We are no longer victims and can begin to create a new story.

Our guest today had a childhood that was so unconventional it needed reframing! If you think your childhood was different you'll resonate with her story.

Cea Sunrise Person is the author of the best selling books North of Normal and Nearly Normal.

Click book covers to purchase or read more.

Today Cea is a successful writer, speaker and writing coach. You can find out more about her at her website where you will also find links to her social media sites. What did we learn from this interview? We learned how important it is to face your fears and not let them paralyze you. And we were also reminded that when we meet someone it is easy to make assumptions about who they are and what they have been through. If you met Cea on the street today it would be easy to assume she has had an easy life. Our stories are powerful and sharing them helps us all to reframe our lives and remember how resilient we can be.

Episode 53 | How your smartphone can increase your well-being

Keeping current with technology can be a lot of work. And the app store can be overwhelming. How do you know what apps are really good? Ratings and reviews help but we like personal recommendations. We find it helpful to learn from each other and to share what really works for us so we can get the most out of these devices that seem to have taken over so much of our lives.

On our social media episode we talked about the negative side of technology. On this episode we want to reframe technology and talk about how our smartphones are helping us live better lives.

Note: The apps we talk about in this episode are iPhone specific although many of them have android versions

1. Headspace Jo-Anne uses this app each morning to help her become more mindful. There is a free trial available if you are interested in checking it out. The app provides a guided meditation that takes about ten minutes. It helps you to become more calm and centered. Let us know if you try it and what you think. Or if you have a meditation app that works for you!

2. My Medical Sandy has found this app very helpful in tracking all things related to her physical well-being. From the developer's' website: "My Medical is a comprehensive record-keeping app for your personal medical information. It's the perfect replacement for unreliable paper records or various electronic systems that hold bits and pieces of your medical history. With My Medical, any and all information that is important to you is kept together in one place." You'll never wonder when you had your last mammogram again!

3. Sworkit Jo-Anne recommends this fitness app as a replacement or alternative to going to the gym. There are in-app purchases available and you can sign up for programs to get you the results that you are interested in achieving. It’s like a personal trainer in an app. Fitness apps can be a great option if you are not interested in going to a gym. Fitness Blender is another alternative that Jo-Anne uses.

4. Calm This app is recommended by Sandy. It helps you relax and sleep better. It includes in-app purchases but there are also free options. This one differs from Headspace in that it has more variety including calming music and sleeping stories. It is great if you have anxiety and have trouble falling asleep.

5. Hiking Apps: The health benefits of being in the forest are well documented. We often hike together to talk about our podcast, business and lives. The conversations we have in the woods have nourished our friendship.

The Bruce Trail App This app helps us plan our hikes and promotes us spending time in nature. We recently did a hike on the Bruce Trail and found it challenging to find the trail in a few places. This app kept us from getting too far off the path. For all of our listeners in Ontario we recommend exploring this beautiful trail.

The Great Trail App will have you walking across Canada. It's new this year to celebrate Canada's 150th. Once we finish the Bruce Trail maybe we'll start on the rest of Canada!

All Trails This app will show you trails in your area. Jo-Anne introduced it on this episode and it is really helpful. If you want to hike wherever you are check out this app.

We want to live and lead our best lives. Let's support each other. Share on our Facebook page or on Instagram the apps that you use to increase your well-being. What are the apps you can’t live without? What apps have helped you and how?

Episode 52 | You've got the power - what are you doing with it?

It happens all too often. It happened yesterday. We do it. You do it. We give away our power. We don't even realize it. But other people do.

Here is Sandy's story about what happened yesterday:

I'm going to change a few of the details so I don't alienate anyone. I was out with a team from an organization that I have worked with in the past. Everyone present was an influencer in the organization. A woman at the table made a comment. She holds a senior leadership role. She said, as she dismissed an idea that was presented that was innovative and had the potential to shake things up, "We have to cater to our investors." I stopped the conversation and challenged her, "If you want to choose to cater to your investors, fine. But own it. You aren't a victim. You are making a choice here."

The truth is, I do the same thing all the time. It's just easier to see it in someone else. We need to be careful about the language we use. There is power in words. We invite you to think about your own power this week as you listen to our episode.

Start by reflecting on these questions:

1. When have you felt powerless?

2. How do you regain your sense of power?

3. When have you felt powerful?

We looked at these areas of power in our lives:

Positional Power - If you have a title that gives you authority then you have positional power. Examples are: parent, manager, fitness instructor, board member.

Relational Power - You can have power because of your relationships. If you are connected to someone in a powerful position you can have power through that relationship. You have power through your networks and the people you influence through relationships.

Personal Power - You have power in your own life. You have power to make decisions To not be a victim. To be the creator of your own story.

What other places of power do you think of? Share them with us!

As women we need to be aware of the story we tell ourselves about our power. We are not victims. We can develop our power in healthy ways.

Here are a few ideas:

Develop resilience: Deal with setbacks and negatives in your life. Learn how to handle adversity. Get support if needed.

Develop your network: There is power in relationships. Connect with the right people. We explored this more in Episode 38.

Keep Learning: Knowledge is power. Formal and informal education can help us increase and understand power in our lives. Being informed about whatever issues concern you can help you regain power. Read books by inspiring people can help you begin to shift your thinking in your life. Listen to podcasts!

Choose your words carefully: Do you say, 'should/have to/must/no choice' often? Reframe it! Every time we turn on the news or look at our twitter feed we can feel overwhelmed with the violence, corruption, threats of war and destruction of the environment. Now, more than ever, we need to own our power and not become victims.

We are in this together!

Episode 51 | Reframing Social Media - is it possible?

How much time do you spend on social media?

Like most people we have a love/hate relationship with these on-line spaces. These platforms affect every area of our lives - especially our relationships and our self-image. Many of us have strong opinions about social media and how we use it. Our opinions and views can polarize us. We certainly don't have all the answers for you on this week's episode. We disagree on this topic at points as well. It's a massive topic to discuss in one podcast. We feel it deserves our attention. We look at the positive and negatives and then offer some suggestions for you to reframe this area of your life.

 

Positives:

1. Connection: Social media allows us to keep in touch with a larger network of social connections in our life. Jo-Anne talks about how this has helped her keep connected with friends from different countries and places she has lived.

2. Communities: We are both part of Facebook groups that allow us to foster community with people with shared interests. Sandy's neighbourhood Facebook page is quite active and keeps area residents informed on everything from community events to construction and even missing pets.

3. Learning: When Jo-Anne wanted to try juicing recently she put the question out on social media and had many helpful responses from people who had tried it. Sandy follows influencers on Instagram who are writing and leading the way in the area of ethical fashion.

4. Exploring: Sandy loves to see the beautiful pictures that people are posting. Before her recent trip to Europe she used hashtags on Instagram to see what people were enjoying in the places she planned to visit. 5. Emergency Services: Lives are saved through social media. During natural disasters, terrorist attacks, Amber alerts or other crisis information can be communicated to a large network.

5. Platform: As an entrepreneur social media provides you with a platform. Today anyone can have a voice and build a brand. It is easy to take this for granted but it is amazing and unprecedented in history.

 

Negatives:

1. Time Drain: Hopping on your social media accounts can waste time, distract you from what you really want/need to do and be an easy way to procrastinate.

2. Habit forming: We quote some stats at the beginning of this podcast about how much time we spend on social media. Make no mistake that Facebook/Instagram/LinkedIn/Twitter and all the other sites are businesses. They profit by our use of their platform. And they have made it very easy for us to form habits to keep us coming back.

3. FOMO: Social media can fuel our fear of missing out. We see what others are doing and feel like we need more.

4. Comparisons: We can form perceptions that everyone else has a better life based on the curated images that are posted. Remember that we are only seeing what people want us to see.

YouTube! Another platform that we can spend lots of time on! Portlandia has a couple of great takes on social media.We mentioned their technology loop segment in this episode. Watch this one as well - ready to declare social bankruptcy?

Suggestions:

1. Pick your platforms: You don't need to be everywhere. You can't be everywhere. If you are using social media to build your business or following do some research on where your target market is hanging out. Analytics are available for each platform.

2. Be Realistic: Don't let social media form your understanding of other people's lives - remember you are probably just seeing the best parts of their lives. Don't go on social media if you are feeling discouraged with your life! Cultivate real community and relationships outside of the on-line space to support you.

3. Be Selective: You don't need to be friends with everyone. Unfollow anyone that you find toxic or negative. Follow people you really connect with. Reframe your friends list to reflect quality over quantity.

4. Be Intentional: Schedule time when you check your feeds so it doesn't become habitual. Turn off notifications. Delete social media accounts on your phone to limit your use of them. Don't go on social media / email first thing in the morning.

5. Use Automation to manage your accounts: When we send out this newsletter it automatically posts to twitter. Our Instagram account connects to Facebook. Check out Hootsuite, Edgar, and IFTTT for more automation.

6. Reflect on your social media use and become aware of your habits and choices.

7. Read/Research: As social media becomes more and more a part of our lives, researchers and writers are delving into how we are being shaped by the on-line world.

Here are just two books that we've read recently. Please share any you have read with us.

Deep Work: Rules for Focused Success in a Distracted World by Cal Newport

Solitude: A Singular Life in a Crowded World by Michael Harris

We would love to learn from you! Tell us how you are managing social media in your life. You can connect with us on Facebook, Twitter and Instagram - yes, we get the irony. We are still on our bi-weekly schedule and testing it out. Our next episode will be posted on August 15th. If you haven't completed the survey yet the link is below. And if you have a friend you would like to share this episode with please forward it to them. We want to expand this community.

Episode 50 | Tales and advice from our travel experiences

It's finally here! We are really proud to hit the mark of 50 episodes.

Apparently not many podcasts make it this far. Maybe because it is so hard to see results and to grow your following. We are getting both and we thank you for support.

This week we talk about travel. It was a natural since we both just returned from vacations and were sharing our experiences. Did you know that adults over 50 will take 4 trips per year and rank travel as their number one leisure activity? And boomer women spend nine out of every ten-vacation dollars. (Click here for source).

We definitely like to travel. We discuss our ups and downs in this episode. We share some of the lessons we have learned - especially about travelling with other people. And we share some of our travel tips. We both have learned to reframe line ups and to travel lighter to start.

If you have a trip planned this summer, as part of your planning consider this question, "What will make this trip a success for me?" Once you know the answer, share it with your travel companion(s) and get their response as well. That one conversation will help you create a holiday that is focused on what is really important.

Safe travels!

 

Episode 49 | Ten quotes that will help you Reframe Your Life

We recorded this week's episode a month ago and we are eager to finally share it with you.

BUT FIRST THINGS FIRST: WE NEED YOUR INPUT!

We are coming up to our 50th episode and we are taking some time in a few weeks to work on what is next at Reframe Your Life. We have almost 1000 subscribers and our numbers are going up every month. We know we can improve and get better at what we are doing but we don't want to guess or make assumptions about what our listeners want. We would really appreciate it if you would take time to help us out by completing our survey. Thank you if you have already taken time to complete the survey. The input is helping us know where to focus next. If you haven't completed it yet, PLEASE take a few minutes and give us your opinion. You will find it here

OK...now back to our regular program. In preparation for this episode, we compiled quotes that have motivated us or inspired us in our work. We discuss how we collect quotes and how we use them in our work. It's true that you can easily find inspirational quotes searching on the web - we do that as well. But there are quotes that stick with us and we never need to search for them. They are quotes that we have read or heard that articulated exactly what we needed to think about at that time. The first quote we chose is the one below:

This quote was shared with us after a time where we had been immersed in a learning environment that had been deeply transformative. We were reminded that when we went back to 'the real world', we would see thing differently. The change we experienced could impact the relationships that had seemed so easy and fitting before. It was good preparation and we both go back to it at different times in our lives. If you like that quote, you will love this episode.

We have nine more quotes we love that we share and discuss.

Enjoy and please send us your favourite quotes. Send them by email  or share on Facebook or Instagram.

Episode 48 | Find Your Voice with Danielle Vlemmiks

You know it isn't just what you say, it is how you say it that can have the greatest impact in your communication. 

In this episode we talk about:

  • how to use your words to inspire action
  • non-verbal communication
  • becoming a better presenter including some practical tips on how to get feedback when and how you want it.
  • the power of silence 
  • the one thing all women can do be better presenters
  • our handshake issues
  • a great question to get feedback from your friends and colleagues
  • and more!

We think you will find this episode practical in helping you feel more confident in all of your communications. 

Jo-Anne mentioned the handshake video. Here it is:

To connect with our guest today contact her at:  dvlemmiks@gmail.com

 

Episode 47 | Six Unique Challenges Women in Leadership Face

Both men and women face challenges in leadership. It’s a huge responsibility to be a leader. It requires deep work developing leadership skills and capacity. This week we talk about six unique challenges women face. They are highlighted in this post but make sure you listen to the podcast to get more of our insight and discussion.  

Challenge #1: Women are too emotional or aren’t emotional enough.

Do women cry? Yep. Do men cry? You bet. We’re human. We have emotions. How we process our emotions matters. As leaders— no matter what our gender —we must find the appropriate balance of processing our emotions authentically (yes, tears are ok!) while leading confidently, choosing to not be blinded by our emotions in the moment and not always burying what’s going on inside our hearts as well as minds.

Emotions provide us with insight into what is going on inside of us. Pay attention to your emotions. 

Reframe: We’re all emotional. We’re human.
 
Challenge #2: Women who choose work over family aren’t good mothers or can't be good leaders.

Choosing to be a working mom doesn’t make you less of a mom. One choice isn’t better or wiser than the other. It simply boils down to what you’ve decided is best step for you and your family. In the same vain, not being a mom doesn’t make a more or less effective leader as well. Both choices are difficult and both require sacrifice. The best decision a leader can make is in taking the next best step in front of them.

Reframe: Being who we were uniquely designed makes you a good mothers or leaders, not a culture-defined stereotype.
 
Challenge #3: Lack of female role models.

Women have time and again proved their capabilities in the work front but still the top cream layer is mostly occupied by men. The challenge here is female leaders are many but role models are few. The result is when women try and look for leaders whom they can emulate, they are left behind. 

Who has helped you grow as a leader?
What woman are you supporting in their leadership journey?

When looking for a role model don't forget to look for the traits you admire not the title or position someone has!

Reframe: Be intentional about seeking out women role models. 

Challenge #4: Power play and ego clashes.

Women often shy away from politics and power. If you haven't listened to our episode with Karen Scian, listen to her story about being a woman in politics.  

Lots of women have written about their challenges. One worth reading that invites a reframe of traditional male approaches of power is: The Princessa: Machiavelli for Women by Harriet Rubin.

Reframe: Understand that power and politics exist and you need to learn how to engage. Be wise. 

Challenge #5: Marginalization of women is more common than we want to admit.

As much as we don’t want to admit it, women are still being diminished, sidelined, suppressed, and thought less of because of being women and because they are different from the leadership norm. Further, women are pushed aside regularly when they make their family priorities known or demand time off after having a child.
 
If your organization still has insufficient representation of women at senior levels, do what is necessary to bring about true change. Conduct primary research at your workplace to uncover what is not working for women in the organization, and follow it up by implementing new policies, procedures, and effective training, education, and programs for men and women.

And support successful and empowering female leaders today as true role models who “walk the talk” and can give other women a powerful visual model for success.

Reframe: Confront marginalization when you encounter it. Have conversations with men who may unintentionally be acting out of old entrenched patterns.
 
Challenge #6: Women don’t believe in themselves.

And therein lies the greatest challenge of all—confidence in who we are and in who we can be.

Be willing to look for the support that you need to help you grow in your confidence.

We did an entire episode on confidence. Listen for some helpful insight. 

Reframe: When women do choose to believe in themselves, nothing that can stop them.

We ended our episode with some ways for you to actually overcome these challenges in your life and work. Let us know what you have experienced and how you have overcome your unique challenges!  

Have a great week,

Sandy & Jo-Anne xo

And a little bonus for you here!  While we don't agree it is a man's world. We do think Jame Brown rocks AND he was speaking the truth of his time.

Episode 46 | Steph Jagger Interview

When Jo-Anne read Unbound she send me a text saying, "We HAVE to get Steph on Reframe Your Life." We were so excited when it worked out not only to have her record this episode but to also go to a book launch dinner party. We had a great evening 

Available on Amazon or your favourite bookseller.

Available on Amazon or your favourite bookseller.

Steph Jagger's story is inspiring in so many ways. One message we loved was that you don't need to be broken to go on a journey or a quest. So many of the stories we hear begin with the ending of something significant - a death, a divorce, a downsizing or a difficulty of some sort. Steph wasn't in a tough place. She was in a place that can be even more difficult to leave in some ways. Life was good. But something clicked in her one day on a chair lift and she knew she needed to follow her intuition and see what it was telling her.

Listen to this episode and send us your comments. We are sure you will find it inspiring.  

Two books Steph mentioned as part of her journey were:

The Dance of the Dissident Daughter - by Sue Monk Kidd

and

The Power of Myth by Joseph Campbell and Bill Moyer

Enjoy this episode and let us know how it helps you Reframe Your Life! 

 

 

Episode 45 | How to stop caring what other people think

We started this episode 4X but we think we got it right in the end!

This week we ask you to reflect on these questions:

  • Where does your need to be liked show up in your life?
  • Do you find yourself consumed with the externals in your life and how people judge you for them?  
  • What would your life be like if you lived it without worrying about what other people think at all?
  • Why does it matter if we care about what other people think?
  • What are you afraid of when you are concerned about what other people think?
  • How does social media impact you? Are measuring your worth by how many follower, likes or friends you have?
  • How do you deal with wanting to be liked?

We think:

Needing to be liked can cause you to alter your behaviour and take action in ways that can change your life. If you are afraid to be yourself you may not speak your truth and make choices that impact your future! We want to be true to ourselves.

reframe your need to be liked by being clear:

Be clear about who you are. If you are not sure what you value or what you stand for you can be vulnerable to what to others think.

Be clear about how you measure success. If I measure success for my webinar by content or participants. You can only measure success by what is in your control.

Be clear about whose opinions really matter.  We love the advice that Brene Brown offers. She suggests taking a 1” x 1” square and writing on it the names of the people whose opinion really matters. When you feel judged or criticized pull out the paper and remind yourself whose opinion counts. 

This book has helped both of us. To order a copy simply click on the picture below. 

As always, we invite your feedback and look forward to hearing what you want to share with us!

We tackled the topic of fear in a previous episode. If you want to deal more with that topic click here.  

Episode 44 | The Unstoppable Tracy Schmitt

Before there was the Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt there was the Unstoppable Tracy Schmitt. 

What the hell are you doing?

Our guest this week has asked that question more than once. She will inspire you to take more risks and live your life with passion.

As a four way amputee Tracy has climbed mountains in Nepal, captained 110 foot tall ships in the Eastern Atlantic and received a bronze medal as a paralympian athlete in alpine skiing and that's just her first 20 years!

Her latest adventure was as a Quest for the Gold Athlete where Tracy competed in world cup regattas across North America and around the world embarking on a Paralympic Sailing Campaign for the 2016 Paralympic Games in Rio, Brazil! She was in able-bodied international world cup regattas competitions.

Sandy first met Tracy about twenty years ago when they worked together in learning and development. We were excited to hear that Tracy has taken her story out to the world so more people will be inspired. She has a book coming out in November where she shares her story in detail and teaches you how you can be unstoppable! 

We love the stories that she shares especially about a big risk she took to pursue her dream instead of playing it safe. Was it easy? No. Tracy said there were many nights she lay in bed asking herself, 'What the hell am I doing?"

Have you been there?

When you put yourself in the place where you have put it all on the line you know you are a true Life Reframer!  What is your dream? What is your passion? How can you create the life you want?  

What the hell are you doing?

Click on the picture above to visit Tracy's website. You'll find her links to all her social media accounts there as well. And you can pre-order her book as well. 

Listen to our episode this week. Get inspired and share your stories with us! And if you need help making that dream a reality don't forget to check out Sandy's webinar: Five Proven Ways to Achieve Your Goals.

Episode 43 | Do these things and achieve your goals

How often have you said you wanted to do something and failed to achieve the goal?

What happened to keep you from reaching the goal?

What go in the way?

We know how life can get in the way of our good intentions. This week on Reframe Your Life we talk about goals and suggest five practical ways that you can achieve your goals. We talk about our own challenges and what we have learned that has helped us make progress.  

In addition to our podcast, Sandy is offering a webinar that will give you even more support.  You will get started on creating routines, rituals and rhythms that will help you achieve your goals. 

This 90 minute webinar includes:

  • the three barriers you need to overcome to get stuff done
  • the two types of routines that will enable you to make progress on your goals
  • how to identify your own natural rhythms and work with them not against them
  • a PDF guide to help you begin creating the life you want now

Are you tired of making excuses?

Are you ready to take action and start moving forward? Is it time to reframe your commitment?

This webinar is the place to start. And it is affordable! For the same price as the average leadership or self-help book you will receive the tools to help you move forward.
 

Sign up and stop talking about what you want and take action on getting it!

Sign up and stop talking about what you want and take action on getting it!

Episode 42 | Five leadership lessons we learned our first year of podcasting


It is our first anniversary. Thank you so much for being part of our amazing and growing community of women listeners. This picture was taken last year at the end of our first season. It's been quite ride. 


Here's some of the lessons we learned along the way:

REALITY:

1. Face your fears. We had to face our fears and put ourselves out there.What will people think? What is we fail? What if no one listens?  There are lots of things that run through your head when you get outside your comfort zone. 

2. You have to start at the start. There is no fast way to learn things. You have to go through the process. Everyone starts somewhere. We were all new once. If you are starting something new - give it time. There is a lot of work at the beginning of an endeavour and a steep learning curve. Be patient with yourself when you are at the start of something. You keep testing, learning and changing as you go.

REALIGN:

3. Realign your expectations. We started out very broad addressing women in general. We now see ourselves as speaking to women who want to lead your own life. It takes way more time than you think it will take. We often underestimate how long things will take. How can you be more realistic about time?

4. Create systems and processes to make life easier. We had to develop social media, marketing, guest scheduling systems and processes in place. When you start out you have none of those things in place. We now have episode guides that support our programs and that allows us to be flexible. Systems help with expectations and clarity of communications.

RELATIONSHIPS:

5. Your success in life depends on the strength of your relationships. You need to get to know the people you work, work on communication, know each other's strengths, and support each other. We've learned how to appreciate our strengths and understand how we work in the past year. We also depend on our community. We've been intentional on being consistent so that we can build your trust. 

Thank you so much for being part of our community. We have definitely grown in the past year.  We value your feedback. We would love more of it. Let us know! Send us an email or leave us a review on iTunes.  Say something on Facebook or on Instagram. Thanks!
 

Episode 41 | Jo-Anne Gibson shares the story behind Courage to Lead

Finally the tables have turned. This week Sandy had the opportunity to interview her Reframe Your Life co-host, Jo-Anne Gibson.  She shares her thoughts below:

I thought I knew Jo-Anne but she had some surprises in store for me. She has done some serious reframing! I learned a lot - especially about some of the unique jobs she has taken. That last comment is cryptic on purpose. You will have to listen to find out more.
 


 In this episode Jo-Anne talks about how she learned to see herself as courageous. When you listen to Jo-Anne each week on our podcast you might assume that she has always been confident and courageous. It takes courage to leave your home land and travel across the world to live. Jo-Anne (with her husband, Ashley) have done that a few times. They initially moved to England and then several years later relocated to Canada. 

Jo shares a lot of things in this episode that will help you face your own challenges.  If you have struggled with fear or been afraid to make the first step, listen to her advice. She is an expert in behaviour change whether it is with individuals or organizations.  She knows it is difficult and that there are ways to facilitate change. She shares some of her strategies with us.

One of the ways Jo-Anne helps people is by working with them to take action once they have committed to a goal. She does this in her own life and works really hard to get results for herself and for her clients. She has done it for me. I've learned if I really want to move forward with something to share it with Jo-Anne. She is excellent at making sure I am really committed. Once she is certain of my commitment she will help me develop strategies, identify barriers, and provide accountability. Couldn't you use someone like that in your life?

One of my favourite quotes from the episode is this one:

You can have knowledge
but if you don't have the courage to lead
it doesn't matter.
Leadership is about taking action.

If you need a shot of courage start by following Joanne! 

Find her on Instagram - where you will also be treated to pictures of some of her husband's fabulous cooking!

Follow her on Facebook and Twitter


And visit her website to find out more about her work and join her newsletter.  
 

Episode 40 | The Topic We Tried to Avoid with guest Ash Ahern

When we started Reframe Your Life we created a topic list. We decided against the topic of personal finances. We weren’t sure we wanted to go there. It felt like it was too personal and specialized for us to explore. Plus, we didn't really want to talk about our money attitudes.

And then Jo-Anne discovered Ash Ahern. She is an International Speaker, Money Mindset and Fulfillment Coach, and Chief Expansionist at The Expansion Project.

We were curious and invited her to record an episode. We are glad we did! We learned a lot and had a good time talking about money - is that possible?  

Ash shares her story as a struggling entrepreneur in the financial industry to becoming a successful business and life coach on stages in schools, churches, and business seminars, workshops and conferences.

Her message is one of faith, perseverance and surrender. Today she coaches women how to start and grow online businesses and get control of their money story by tapping into their bliss, getting clarity in their vision, ditching the hustle and embracing creative flow, feminine power and self care.

And, she talks about all of the things that we know you need to do to Reframe Your Life. Money, it turns out, isn’t any different from anything else. One of the biggest challenges women face when it comes to personal finances is caring what other people think. We can get trapped in making poor financial decisions and getting honest about our reality.

Listen to our episode this week and find out how your ego may be the one thing holding you back from reframing your financial reality.

Resources mentioned in our program this week include:

Ashleigh Ahern’s website  

How to Be Rich by Andy Stanley  (Note: Jo-Anne and I haven't read this but Ashleigh highly recommends it.)

The Expansion Project  

Episode 39 | Courtney Carver on the many benefits of living simply

The topics of minimalism, decluttering or living simply are really on trend. They aren't new topics although there appears to be a resurgence of people writing about  the merits of living with less.  For example, Marie Kondo's book The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up has sold over 1.5 million copies and is in its 55th printing. You probably own it! The Minimalist's documentary was the most popular documentary in the US last year and is now available on Netflix.  It seems clear, we are all feeling a need to reframe the stuff in our lives!

We are excited to have one of the most influential people on this topic as a guest on our podcast this week.  

Courtney Carver is an author and speaker who inspires people to find their way back to love by slowing down and simplifying life and work. She created the minimalist fashion challenge Project 333 which was featured in O, The Oprah Magazine and Real Simple Magazine. Courtney was featured in the movie Minimalism: A Documentary About the Important Things (now available on Netflix).  

Courtney's health crisis prompted her to look at her life and make some radical choices about how she was living. The results were astonishing. She tells the whole story on our podcast.

She has challenged us and we have both decided to take up the challenge. For the next 3 months Jo-Anne and I have decided to pare down our wardrobes (maybe not to 33 items but as close as we can). We have also decided not to purchase any new items of clothings for 3 months and Sandy isn't going to buy any new books!

We encourage you to listen to this podcast and let us know on Facebook if you are going to join us on this challenge. One of our favourite lines from our interview is: What if you defined success as less?  

We love that idea and we want to reframe success not by what we have and own but as who we are. We agree with Courtney, what makes a person interesting isn't what they are wearing, it's who they are. 

For more about Courtney, click on her picture above. You can also find her on Instagram, Twitter or Facebook.  Or search #project333 to see people taking up her challenge.

 

Episode 38 | Three types of people you need in your life and Two types you don't!

Spring is a great time to do some cleaning and decluttering. Have you ever thought of getting rid of people in your life who are holding you back and zapping your energy? If that sounds really pragmatic or uncaring to you remember that the people you spend time with have a huge impact on your life.

Motivational speaker Jim Rohn puts it this way,

"You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with."

We know that relationships are a big part of reframing your life. If you want to lead your very best life we suggest you make sure you have these three types of people in your life:

1.  Cheerleaders - Do you have people who believe in your potential? Do they encourage you to reach your goals and cheer on your successes?

2. Champions - Do you have friends or mentors who are where you want to be in your life? These people can inspire you and open doors for you.

3. Challengers - Who are the friends or colleagues who push you to do more than you think you can do? They ask you good questions and make you really think about your choices.

We discuss these three relationships in detail on this weeks episode and we also suggest you ditch these two types of people if they are in your life:

1. Critics - If you have people who are always telling you all the reasons you can't do something or sabotaging your efforts - move on!

2. Casual time wasters - It's great to have people who want to just hang out and chill but if you have people who are sucking up your time wanting to hang out and have coffee and aren't doing anything with their lives you need to find some new friends!

Think about the five people you spend the most time with in your life. We hope you have cheerleaders, champions and challengers in your circle. We aspire to be that for our listeners.

Episode 37 | Five Ways to Increase Your Confidence


There is one area that can make an immense difference in how you feel. It is confidence. Don't you just love it when you feel confident? Our conversation this week will help you find ways to increase your confidence.

But first...

Before you listen to the episode make a note of an area in your life where you would like to feel more confident. Reflect on our ideas and decide on one action you could take to improve your confidence.

Here are the highlights of the 5 ways to increase your confidence: 

Personal Values - To feel confident you not only need to know what you value AND you need to make choices that align with them. When you are not in alignment with your values you feel guilt and shame. Those feelings undermine confidence.Where do you want to make better choices that align with your values?

People - Relationships are key in building confidence. Do you have people that support you? Guide you? Are a sounding board for you? We had a whole episode on relationships coming up but for now start thinking about the people who help you feel confident.

Practice - If you listened to our first episode and compared it to this week's episode you will hear more confidence in our voices.  When we recorded our first episode we were on a steep learning curve. This episode was our 37th and we think it shows! The more you do something, the more confident you will feel.

Practice builds competence.  Competence builds confidence.

What area of our life would you benefit from practicing?  

Pay Attention -  What you experiencing internally and externally when you are lacking in confidence? One area to pay attention to is your internal dialogue. You need to become aware of any negative thoughts you are having that are self-defeating. What about your external environment? How confident can you feel when you are neglecting your physical space? It's hard to feel at the top of your game when you have an obvious coffee stain on your shirt and you can't find your keys in your messy office. Pay attention to the language you use. Do you say, "I'm just an office administrator?" How about reframing those statements? Try, "I'm the gatekeeper for the marketing department. Any one who wants anything needs to go through me."  Good-bye "I'm just an office administrator!" 

Prepare - The more prepared you are in a situaiton, the more confident you will feel. When you walk into any situation already primed with the knowledge you need you will feel more in control and more confident. Being prepared applies in every situation and especially when you feel vulnerable or insecure.  Do some research. Find out what you need to know. You will be surprised how preparation will give you an edge in almost every situation. 

We loved recording this episode. We know what it is like to feel insecure and we also know how to reframe those feelings. 

If you enjoy our podcast, please forward it to a friend.  

Episode 36 | Are you a feminist?


Our podcast this week was inspired by:

International Women's Day (March 8) is a global day celebrating the social, economic, cultural and political achievements of women. The day also marks a call to action for accelerating gender parity. You can click on the logo and go to the IWD website and read more. Here is a little bit about the cause from their site: "The World Economic Forum predicts the gender gap won't close entirely until 2186. This is too long to wait. Around the world, IWD can be an important catalyst and vehicle for driving greater change for women and moving closer to gender parity."

This year the theme of campaign is: Be Bold for Change Now.  The hashtag being used is: #beboldforchange  

We started Reframe Your Life as a podcast for women. Along the way we have been asked, 'Why a podcast specifically for women?"  We believe that women still face conscious and unconscious bias in their homes and work. We talk about our challenges this week on our podcast.

And for the first time, we have a repeat guest. Karen Scian joins us for the conversation (and she brought the wine). This podcast is a real heart to heart for us. We were getting together to catch up and decided to get out the mic and record our conversation. We hope you enjoy it as much as we did!  Find out more about Karen and the great work she is doing at her website.  

Our mission is to help you lead your best life and we are bringing you guests who have influenced and helped us lead our best lives. 

If you enjoy our podcast, please forward it to a friend.  And if you would like coaching around reaching your goals or getting clear on leading a successful life reach out to us. We would love to help you Reframe Your Life.

Jo-Anne & Sandy x

To learn more about Sandy’s business, visit www.sandyreynolds.com and check out her new Change Your Story coaching program for women.

To learn more about Jo-Anne’s business, visit www.couragetolead.ca