Episode 83 | Desperately Seeking Spirituality with Meredith Gould

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It's mid afternoon and aside from a walk at 6 o'clock this morning, I have not left the house and I don't plan on it. As long as the air conditioning is working I'll be right here. In my reasoning mind, any humidex over 40ºc is too hot to venture outdoors. It is the reason Netflix was invented. I'm sure there are women who love the slow trickle of sweat running between their breasts but I'm not one of them. I find myself unable to trust people who say, "It doesn't bother me, I like the heat." I just don't believe them.

It's amazing how easy it is to draw lines! Our weather preferences are just the start. And once we get into the topic of faith and spirituality I know we'll find ourselves in opposite camps at some point. I think it is why I hesitated for so long to focus my work in this direction. I've changed my opinion on issues I once held as central to my faith and I've experienced that feeling of not being welcome as a result.

I'm thankful to encounter other women on a similar journey like my guest this week - Meredith Gould. She has had enough experience on her faith journey to know that who we are is going to bring us a lot more peace than getting twisted up over what we believe or don't believe. Her book Desperately Seeking Spirituality focuses on five spiritual practices of being: willingness, curiousity, empathy, generosity and delight. If we all focused on developing in these areas I'm sure we would find ourselves able to manage our polarities with a lot more grace.

If you are looking for ways to escape the heat this week - check out these recommendations:

Worth listening:

Episode 83 | Desperately Seeking Spirituality Meredith Gould shares her spiritual journey and discusses her book.It's my first solo interview and Meredith made it easy for me. We could have talked for hours. And I hope to have that opportunity in the future. Listen on iTunes or your fave podcast site or at the link above.

Find out more about this week's guest:

Dr. Meredith Gould is a sociologist, longtime spiritual seeker, mixed media mosaic artist and award-winnng author of eleven published books. No wonder an hour wasn't enough time with her! Visit her website for more or check out her mosaics here

Worth reading:

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Don't let appearances deceive you. This is not a lengthy book but once you get into it you will realize you can't rush through it. It would be worth committing a week to each of the five practices and taking your time to really integrate them into your life. I will be focusing on one each day on Instagram this week (@sandyareynolds if you aren't already following me).

Worth watching:

I have watched this movie almost every summer since I first discovered it when my kids were young (but old enough to understand the message of this movie). It's a good movie with a great soundtrack and the message is as relevant now as it was when it came out in 1994. Watch the trailer here or click on the picture to order a copy. I am sure you can stream it somewhere if you look for it!

Get out your journal!

I hope your summer includes some time for reflection. I've created a download for you called "Reclaiming Your Faith." It's a one pager with some questions to get you thinking about our relationship with faith. 

 Thanks for being on this journey with me!  I want this to be a space where we can talk about spirituality without judgment. It doesn't matter what you believe - you are welcome here.

Episode 82 | Reclaiming Your Relationship with Faith

I've been eager to get this new episode up and to share this new venture with you. And a little freaked out as well!  I've always related to these words from the T.S. Eliot's Four Quartets: 

We shall not cease from exploration
And the end of all our exploring
Will be to arrive where we started
And know the place for the first time.

I've experienced this truth in my life many times. And so it wasn't surprising to me that after years of rethinking my faith and beliefs that I would find myself back where I started - wanting to share my story with women. I am wired to want to pass on my learning to others. I call myself a 'learning catalyst.' I like to share resources and have conversations that will help you navigate life transitions and challenges. For me, that includes spirituality and faith.

I am drawn to big questions of life. All of us, wherever we sit in our beliefs are trying to make sense of the world. And many of us have found our faith lacking (my apologies to G.K. Chesterton). So when Jo-Anne decided that her time with Reframe Your Life was coming to an end, I was ready to take it into a new direction. I've been interviewing guests and I'm starting to see that a new path opening up as I move forward. I hope you will hang in for a little while why I sort it all out. And please give me feedback as well!

 (Photo credit: Jose Antonio Gallego Vazquez)

(Photo credit: Jose Antonio Gallego Vazquez)

I'm interested in knowing what will be of interest and helpful to you in your life.

On this episode I give you a bit more of my background and how I am refocusing.

Get out your journal! I hope your summer includes some time for reflection. I've created a download for you called "Reclaiming Your Faith." It's a one pager with some questions to get you thinking about our relationship with faith. Get it here

Thanks for being on this journey with me! If you know someone who you think would be interested in this conversation please share this podcast with them.

Episode 81 | Reframing Reframe Your Life (the meta episode)

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We aren't sure if there have been tears after an episode before but there were after this one. We have an open conversation about the challenges and changes in our lives. And we make a couple of big announcements. Thankfully, we have a model to help us think through these things!

Have you ever felt restless or discontent with your work? Even if there are aspects of your work you love, there may be a time when you come to one conclusion - it is time to do something different. In this episode, we walk through our Reframe Your Life model and explore how it applied to a decision Jo-Anne has made to take on a full time job.

Changes have a way of rippling through our life. A change of job can mean a change in another area. Jo-Anne recognized along with her decision to go back to work full time her time commitments would change. We invest a lot of time on our podcast. We both allow several hours each week to record, edit, promote, post and send out our newsletter. Being self-employed makes it possible. Jo-Anne has decided to step away from Reframe Your Life.

This episode is the last one we are recording together as co-hosts. Although Jo-Anne will be back as a guest once she settles in to her new role. If you listened to Episode 78 (Reframe Your Spirituality) you are aware that Sandy has also been going through a pivot in her work. She's focusing more on working with women to support them in their spirituality. Along with that shift she was thinking about starting a separate podcast to go deeper into that type discussion with women.

When we started this podcast, we talked about how it would end (a good practice when starting any type of partnership). We agreed that if one of us wanted to leave and the other wanted to continue on they could continue Reframe Your Life. After some discussion, Sandy has decided to continue with the podcast but take it in a slightly different direction.

Sandy's update: Like all changes, we never know exactly how they will unfold. Clarity comes from action. I have already booked the first guests. Reframe Your Life is going to be reframed. And I think you will like it! The newsletter will continue and it will come through my email address (sandy@sandyreynolds.com). I'm hoping you'll give me a few episodes to find my footing in this new direction before you decide if this direction interests you. Please continue to provide feedback (on iTunes and by email) and guest suggestions. I'm taking the month of June off to redo the website to reflect the changes and to record some episodes. I'll be back in July with Reframe Your Life 2.0

Working together has been on the most fun and rewarding endeavours we have both experienced. It has been a journey that has taught us a lot and bonded our friendship. Thank you so much for your support. See you in July!

The blessing below is from John O'Donohue's book To Bless the Space Between Us  

For a New Position

May your new work excite your heart,
Kindle in your mind a creativity
To journey beyond the old limits
Of all that has become wearisome.

May this work challenge your toward
New frontiers that emerge
As you begin to approach them,
Calling forth from you the full force
And depth of your undiscovered gifts.

May the work fit the rhythms of your soul,
Enabling you to draw from the invisible
New ideas and a vision that will inspire.

Remember to be kind
To those who work for you,
Endeavour to remain aware
Of the quiet world
That lives behind each face.

Be fair in your expectations,
Compassionate in your criticism,
May you have the grace of encouragement
To awaken the gift in the other's heart,
Building in them the confidence
To follow the call of the gift.

May you come to know that work
Which emerges from the mind of love
Will have beauty and form.

May this new work be worthy
Of the energy of your heart
And the light of your thought.

May your work assume
A proper space in your life;
Instead of owning or using you,
May it challenge and refine you,
Bring you every day further
Into the wonder of your heart.

Please note: Reframe Your Life is an Amazon Affiliate and purchases made through links on our newsletter or website help offset some of the costs of the podcast.
 

Episode 80 | Lara Heacock on Creating a Kinder World

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We could all use a little more kindess in our lives. Being busy is a cultural norm that leads many women feeling exhausted and out of control in their lives. Lara Heacock has experienced that unending pressure to do more, be more and have more. And the subsequent burn out that is the inevitable result.

We get it. Jo-Anne has talked previously about how she reframed the word 'busy' to 'full' in her vocabulary. Our language is important and we want to make sure we use it to help us own our lives fully. Lara suggests we stop saying "I don't have time" and get clear by saying, "I didn't make time." Let's take responsibility for the things we have done or not done. And for how we talk about our choices.

Lara shares her story starting with committing to Self-Care Saturday - a weekly commitment to spending time doing things that would help her restore balance in her life. This commitment changed everything for her.

And kindness extends beyond self-care - it involves how we treat each other personally and professionally. Lara works with her corporate clients to help them develop a kinder aproach to how they work together. Imagine being part of a corporate culture where kindness is a value! If you've ever wished you responded with more kindness OR wished you had been treated more kindly this episode will inspire you!

If you are new to Reframe Your Life after you listen to this episode we suggest you listen to Episode 70 - Practical Ways to Practice Self-Care.