Episode 48 | Find Your Voice with Danielle Vlemmiks

You know it isn't just what you say, it is how you say it that can have the greatest impact in your communication. 

In this episode we talk about:

  • how to use your words to inspire action
  • non-verbal communication
  • becoming a better presenter including some practical tips on how to get feedback when and how you want it.
  • the power of silence 
  • the one thing all women can do be better presenters
  • our handshake issues
  • a great question to get feedback from your friends and colleagues
  • and more!

We think you will find this episode practical in helping you feel more confident in all of your communications. 

Jo-Anne mentioned the handshake video. Here it is:

To connect with our guest today contact her at:  dvlemmiks@gmail.com

 

Episode 47 | Six Unique Challenges Women in Leadership Face

Both men and women face challenges in leadership. It’s a huge responsibility to be a leader. It requires deep work developing leadership skills and capacity. This week we talk about six unique challenges women face. They are highlighted in this post but make sure you listen to the podcast to get more of our insight and discussion.  

Challenge #1: Women are too emotional or aren’t emotional enough.

Do women cry? Yep. Do men cry? You bet. We’re human. We have emotions. How we process our emotions matters. As leaders— no matter what our gender —we must find the appropriate balance of processing our emotions authentically (yes, tears are ok!) while leading confidently, choosing to not be blinded by our emotions in the moment and not always burying what’s going on inside our hearts as well as minds.

Emotions provide us with insight into what is going on inside of us. Pay attention to your emotions. 

Reframe: We’re all emotional. We’re human.
 
Challenge #2: Women who choose work over family aren’t good mothers or can't be good leaders.

Choosing to be a working mom doesn’t make you less of a mom. One choice isn’t better or wiser than the other. It simply boils down to what you’ve decided is best step for you and your family. In the same vain, not being a mom doesn’t make a more or less effective leader as well. Both choices are difficult and both require sacrifice. The best decision a leader can make is in taking the next best step in front of them.

Reframe: Being who we were uniquely designed makes you a good mothers or leaders, not a culture-defined stereotype.
 
Challenge #3: Lack of female role models.

Women have time and again proved their capabilities in the work front but still the top cream layer is mostly occupied by men. The challenge here is female leaders are many but role models are few. The result is when women try and look for leaders whom they can emulate, they are left behind. 

Who has helped you grow as a leader?
What woman are you supporting in their leadership journey?

When looking for a role model don't forget to look for the traits you admire not the title or position someone has!

Reframe: Be intentional about seeking out women role models. 

Challenge #4: Power play and ego clashes.

Women often shy away from politics and power. If you haven't listened to our episode with Karen Scian, listen to her story about being a woman in politics.  

Lots of women have written about their challenges. One worth reading that invites a reframe of traditional male approaches of power is: The Princessa: Machiavelli for Women by Harriet Rubin.

Reframe: Understand that power and politics exist and you need to learn how to engage. Be wise. 

Challenge #5: Marginalization of women is more common than we want to admit.

As much as we don’t want to admit it, women are still being diminished, sidelined, suppressed, and thought less of because of being women and because they are different from the leadership norm. Further, women are pushed aside regularly when they make their family priorities known or demand time off after having a child.
 
If your organization still has insufficient representation of women at senior levels, do what is necessary to bring about true change. Conduct primary research at your workplace to uncover what is not working for women in the organization, and follow it up by implementing new policies, procedures, and effective training, education, and programs for men and women.

And support successful and empowering female leaders today as true role models who “walk the talk” and can give other women a powerful visual model for success.

Reframe: Confront marginalization when you encounter it. Have conversations with men who may unintentionally be acting out of old entrenched patterns.
 
Challenge #6: Women don’t believe in themselves.

And therein lies the greatest challenge of all—confidence in who we are and in who we can be.

Be willing to look for the support that you need to help you grow in your confidence.

We did an entire episode on confidence. Listen for some helpful insight. 

Reframe: When women do choose to believe in themselves, nothing that can stop them.

We ended our episode with some ways for you to actually overcome these challenges in your life and work. Let us know what you have experienced and how you have overcome your unique challenges!  

Have a great week,

Sandy & Jo-Anne xo

And a little bonus for you here!  While we don't agree it is a man's world. We do think Jame Brown rocks AND he was speaking the truth of his time.

Episode 46 | Steph Jagger Interview

When Jo-Anne read Unbound she send me a text saying, "We HAVE to get Steph on Reframe Your Life." We were so excited when it worked out not only to have her record this episode but to also go to a book launch dinner party. We had a great evening 

Available on Amazon or your favourite bookseller.

Available on Amazon or your favourite bookseller.

Steph Jagger's story is inspiring in so many ways. One message we loved was that you don't need to be broken to go on a journey or a quest. So many of the stories we hear begin with the ending of something significant - a death, a divorce, a downsizing or a difficulty of some sort. Steph wasn't in a tough place. She was in a place that can be even more difficult to leave in some ways. Life was good. But something clicked in her one day on a chair lift and she knew she needed to follow her intuition and see what it was telling her.

Listen to this episode and send us your comments. We are sure you will find it inspiring.  

Two books Steph mentioned as part of her journey were:

The Dance of the Dissident Daughter - by Sue Monk Kidd

and

The Power of Myth by Joseph Campbell and Bill Moyer

Enjoy this episode and let us know how it helps you Reframe Your Life! 

 

 

Episode 45 | How to stop caring what other people think

We started this episode 4X but we think we got it right in the end!

This week we ask you to reflect on these questions:

  • Where does your need to be liked show up in your life?
  • Do you find yourself consumed with the externals in your life and how people judge you for them?  
  • What would your life be like if you lived it without worrying about what other people think at all?
  • Why does it matter if we care about what other people think?
  • What are you afraid of when you are concerned about what other people think?
  • How does social media impact you? Are measuring your worth by how many follower, likes or friends you have?
  • How do you deal with wanting to be liked?

We think:

Needing to be liked can cause you to alter your behaviour and take action in ways that can change your life. If you are afraid to be yourself you may not speak your truth and make choices that impact your future! We want to be true to ourselves.

reframe your need to be liked by being clear:

Be clear about who you are. If you are not sure what you value or what you stand for you can be vulnerable to what to others think.

Be clear about how you measure success. If I measure success for my webinar by content or participants. You can only measure success by what is in your control.

Be clear about whose opinions really matter.  We love the advice that Brene Brown offers. She suggests taking a 1” x 1” square and writing on it the names of the people whose opinion really matters. When you feel judged or criticized pull out the paper and remind yourself whose opinion counts. 

This book has helped both of us. To order a copy simply click on the picture below. 

As always, we invite your feedback and look forward to hearing what you want to share with us!

We tackled the topic of fear in a previous episode. If you want to deal more with that topic click here.  

Episode 44 | The Unstoppable Tracy Schmitt

Before there was the Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt there was the Unstoppable Tracy Schmitt. 

What the hell are you doing?

Our guest this week has asked that question more than once. She will inspire you to take more risks and live your life with passion.

As a four way amputee Tracy has climbed mountains in Nepal, captained 110 foot tall ships in the Eastern Atlantic and received a bronze medal as a paralympian athlete in alpine skiing and that's just her first 20 years!

Her latest adventure was as a Quest for the Gold Athlete where Tracy competed in world cup regattas across North America and around the world embarking on a Paralympic Sailing Campaign for the 2016 Paralympic Games in Rio, Brazil! She was in able-bodied international world cup regattas competitions.

Sandy first met Tracy about twenty years ago when they worked together in learning and development. We were excited to hear that Tracy has taken her story out to the world so more people will be inspired. She has a book coming out in November where she shares her story in detail and teaches you how you can be unstoppable! 

We love the stories that she shares especially about a big risk she took to pursue her dream instead of playing it safe. Was it easy? No. Tracy said there were many nights she lay in bed asking herself, 'What the hell am I doing?"

Have you been there?

When you put yourself in the place where you have put it all on the line you know you are a true Life Reframer!  What is your dream? What is your passion? How can you create the life you want?  

What the hell are you doing?

Click on the picture above to visit Tracy's website. You'll find her links to all her social media accounts there as well. And you can pre-order her book as well. 

Listen to our episode this week. Get inspired and share your stories with us! And if you need help making that dream a reality don't forget to check out Sandy's webinar: Five Proven Ways to Achieve Your Goals.

Episode 43 | Do these things and achieve your goals

How often have you said you wanted to do something and failed to achieve the goal?

What happened to keep you from reaching the goal?

What go in the way?

We know how life can get in the way of our good intentions. This week on Reframe Your Life we talk about goals and suggest five practical ways that you can achieve your goals. We talk about our own challenges and what we have learned that has helped us make progress.  

In addition to our podcast, Sandy is offering a webinar that will give you even more support.  You will get started on creating routines, rituals and rhythms that will help you achieve your goals. 

This 90 minute webinar includes:

  • the three barriers you need to overcome to get stuff done
  • the two types of routines that will enable you to make progress on your goals
  • how to identify your own natural rhythms and work with them not against them
  • a PDF guide to help you begin creating the life you want now

Are you tired of making excuses?

Are you ready to take action and start moving forward? Is it time to reframe your commitment?

This webinar is the place to start. And it is affordable! For the same price as the average leadership or self-help book you will receive the tools to help you move forward.
 

Sign up and stop talking about what you want and take action on getting it!

Sign up and stop talking about what you want and take action on getting it!

Episode 42 | Five leadership lessons we learned our first year of podcasting


It is our first anniversary. Thank you so much for being part of our amazing and growing community of women listeners. This picture was taken last year at the end of our first season. It's been quite ride. 


Here's some of the lessons we learned along the way:

REALITY:

1. Face your fears. We had to face our fears and put ourselves out there.What will people think? What is we fail? What if no one listens?  There are lots of things that run through your head when you get outside your comfort zone. 

2. You have to start at the start. There is no fast way to learn things. You have to go through the process. Everyone starts somewhere. We were all new once. If you are starting something new - give it time. There is a lot of work at the beginning of an endeavour and a steep learning curve. Be patient with yourself when you are at the start of something. You keep testing, learning and changing as you go.

REALIGN:

3. Realign your expectations. We started out very broad addressing women in general. We now see ourselves as speaking to women who want to lead your own life. It takes way more time than you think it will take. We often underestimate how long things will take. How can you be more realistic about time?

4. Create systems and processes to make life easier. We had to develop social media, marketing, guest scheduling systems and processes in place. When you start out you have none of those things in place. We now have episode guides that support our programs and that allows us to be flexible. Systems help with expectations and clarity of communications.

RELATIONSHIPS:

5. Your success in life depends on the strength of your relationships. You need to get to know the people you work, work on communication, know each other's strengths, and support each other. We've learned how to appreciate our strengths and understand how we work in the past year. We also depend on our community. We've been intentional on being consistent so that we can build your trust. 

Thank you so much for being part of our community. We have definitely grown in the past year.  We value your feedback. We would love more of it. Let us know! Send us an email or leave us a review on iTunes.  Say something on Facebook or on Instagram. Thanks!
 

Episode 41 | Jo-Anne Gibson shares the story behind Courage to Lead

Finally the tables have turned. This week Sandy had the opportunity to interview her Reframe Your Life co-host, Jo-Anne Gibson.  She shares her thoughts below:

I thought I knew Jo-Anne but she had some surprises in store for me. She has done some serious reframing! I learned a lot - especially about some of the unique jobs she has taken. That last comment is cryptic on purpose. You will have to listen to find out more.
 


 In this episode Jo-Anne talks about how she learned to see herself as courageous. When you listen to Jo-Anne each week on our podcast you might assume that she has always been confident and courageous. It takes courage to leave your home land and travel across the world to live. Jo-Anne (with her husband, Ashley) have done that a few times. They initially moved to England and then several years later relocated to Canada. 

Jo shares a lot of things in this episode that will help you face your own challenges.  If you have struggled with fear or been afraid to make the first step, listen to her advice. She is an expert in behaviour change whether it is with individuals or organizations.  She knows it is difficult and that there are ways to facilitate change. She shares some of her strategies with us.

One of the ways Jo-Anne helps people is by working with them to take action once they have committed to a goal. She does this in her own life and works really hard to get results for herself and for her clients. She has done it for me. I've learned if I really want to move forward with something to share it with Jo-Anne. She is excellent at making sure I am really committed. Once she is certain of my commitment she will help me develop strategies, identify barriers, and provide accountability. Couldn't you use someone like that in your life?

One of my favourite quotes from the episode is this one:

You can have knowledge
but if you don't have the courage to lead
it doesn't matter.
Leadership is about taking action.

If you need a shot of courage start by following Joanne! 

Find her on Instagram - where you will also be treated to pictures of some of her husband's fabulous cooking!

Follow her on Facebook and Twitter


And visit her website to find out more about her work and join her newsletter.  
 

Episode 40 | The Topic We Tried to Avoid with guest Ash Ahern

When we started Reframe Your Life we created a topic list. We decided against the topic of personal finances. We weren’t sure we wanted to go there. It felt like it was too personal and specialized for us to explore. Plus, we didn't really want to talk about our money attitudes.

And then Jo-Anne discovered Ash Ahern. She is an International Speaker, Money Mindset and Fulfillment Coach, and Chief Expansionist at The Expansion Project.

We were curious and invited her to record an episode. We are glad we did! We learned a lot and had a good time talking about money - is that possible?  

Ash shares her story as a struggling entrepreneur in the financial industry to becoming a successful business and life coach on stages in schools, churches, and business seminars, workshops and conferences.

Her message is one of faith, perseverance and surrender. Today she coaches women how to start and grow online businesses and get control of their money story by tapping into their bliss, getting clarity in their vision, ditching the hustle and embracing creative flow, feminine power and self care.

And, she talks about all of the things that we know you need to do to Reframe Your Life. Money, it turns out, isn’t any different from anything else. One of the biggest challenges women face when it comes to personal finances is caring what other people think. We can get trapped in making poor financial decisions and getting honest about our reality.

Listen to our episode this week and find out how your ego may be the one thing holding you back from reframing your financial reality.

Resources mentioned in our program this week include:

Ashleigh Ahern’s website  

How to Be Rich by Andy Stanley  (Note: Jo-Anne and I haven't read this but Ashleigh highly recommends it.)

The Expansion Project  

Episode 39 | Courtney Carver on the many benefits of living simply

The topics of minimalism, decluttering or living simply are really on trend. They aren't new topics although there appears to be a resurgence of people writing about  the merits of living with less.  For example, Marie Kondo's book The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up has sold over 1.5 million copies and is in its 55th printing. You probably own it! The Minimalist's documentary was the most popular documentary in the US last year and is now available on Netflix.  It seems clear, we are all feeling a need to reframe the stuff in our lives!

We are excited to have one of the most influential people on this topic as a guest on our podcast this week.  

Courtney Carver is an author and speaker who inspires people to find their way back to love by slowing down and simplifying life and work. She created the minimalist fashion challenge Project 333 which was featured in O, The Oprah Magazine and Real Simple Magazine. Courtney was featured in the movie Minimalism: A Documentary About the Important Things (now available on Netflix).  

Courtney's health crisis prompted her to look at her life and make some radical choices about how she was living. The results were astonishing. She tells the whole story on our podcast.

She has challenged us and we have both decided to take up the challenge. For the next 3 months Jo-Anne and I have decided to pare down our wardrobes (maybe not to 33 items but as close as we can). We have also decided not to purchase any new items of clothings for 3 months and Sandy isn't going to buy any new books!

We encourage you to listen to this podcast and let us know on Facebook if you are going to join us on this challenge. One of our favourite lines from our interview is: What if you defined success as less?  

We love that idea and we want to reframe success not by what we have and own but as who we are. We agree with Courtney, what makes a person interesting isn't what they are wearing, it's who they are. 

For more about Courtney, click on her picture above. You can also find her on Instagram, Twitter or Facebook.  Or search #project333 to see people taking up her challenge.

 

Episode 38 | Three types of people you need in your life and Two types you don't!

Spring is a great time to do some cleaning and decluttering. Have you ever thought of getting rid of people in your life who are holding you back and zapping your energy? If that sounds really pragmatic or uncaring to you remember that the people you spend time with have a huge impact on your life.

Motivational speaker Jim Rohn puts it this way,

"You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with."

We know that relationships are a big part of reframing your life. If you want to lead your very best life we suggest you make sure you have these three types of people in your life:

1.  Cheerleaders - Do you have people who believe in your potential? Do they encourage you to reach your goals and cheer on your successes?

2. Champions - Do you have friends or mentors who are where you want to be in your life? These people can inspire you and open doors for you.

3. Challengers - Who are the friends or colleagues who push you to do more than you think you can do? They ask you good questions and make you really think about your choices.

We discuss these three relationships in detail on this weeks episode and we also suggest you ditch these two types of people if they are in your life:

1. Critics - If you have people who are always telling you all the reasons you can't do something or sabotaging your efforts - move on!

2. Casual time wasters - It's great to have people who want to just hang out and chill but if you have people who are sucking up your time wanting to hang out and have coffee and aren't doing anything with their lives you need to find some new friends!

Think about the five people you spend the most time with in your life. We hope you have cheerleaders, champions and challengers in your circle. We aspire to be that for our listeners.

Episode 37 | Five Ways to Increase Your Confidence


There is one area that can make an immense difference in how you feel. It is confidence. Don't you just love it when you feel confident? Our conversation this week will help you find ways to increase your confidence.

But first...

Before you listen to the episode make a note of an area in your life where you would like to feel more confident. Reflect on our ideas and decide on one action you could take to improve your confidence.

Here are the highlights of the 5 ways to increase your confidence: 

Personal Values - To feel confident you not only need to know what you value AND you need to make choices that align with them. When you are not in alignment with your values you feel guilt and shame. Those feelings undermine confidence.Where do you want to make better choices that align with your values?

People - Relationships are key in building confidence. Do you have people that support you? Guide you? Are a sounding board for you? We had a whole episode on relationships coming up but for now start thinking about the people who help you feel confident.

Practice - If you listened to our first episode and compared it to this week's episode you will hear more confidence in our voices.  When we recorded our first episode we were on a steep learning curve. This episode was our 37th and we think it shows! The more you do something, the more confident you will feel.

Practice builds competence.  Competence builds confidence.

What area of our life would you benefit from practicing?  

Pay Attention -  What you experiencing internally and externally when you are lacking in confidence? One area to pay attention to is your internal dialogue. You need to become aware of any negative thoughts you are having that are self-defeating. What about your external environment? How confident can you feel when you are neglecting your physical space? It's hard to feel at the top of your game when you have an obvious coffee stain on your shirt and you can't find your keys in your messy office. Pay attention to the language you use. Do you say, "I'm just an office administrator?" How about reframing those statements? Try, "I'm the gatekeeper for the marketing department. Any one who wants anything needs to go through me."  Good-bye "I'm just an office administrator!" 

Prepare - The more prepared you are in a situaiton, the more confident you will feel. When you walk into any situation already primed with the knowledge you need you will feel more in control and more confident. Being prepared applies in every situation and especially when you feel vulnerable or insecure.  Do some research. Find out what you need to know. You will be surprised how preparation will give you an edge in almost every situation. 

We loved recording this episode. We know what it is like to feel insecure and we also know how to reframe those feelings. 

If you enjoy our podcast, please forward it to a friend.  

Episode 36 | Are you a feminist?


Our podcast this week was inspired by:

International Women's Day (March 8) is a global day celebrating the social, economic, cultural and political achievements of women. The day also marks a call to action for accelerating gender parity. You can click on the logo and go to the IWD website and read more. Here is a little bit about the cause from their site: "The World Economic Forum predicts the gender gap won't close entirely until 2186. This is too long to wait. Around the world, IWD can be an important catalyst and vehicle for driving greater change for women and moving closer to gender parity."

This year the theme of campaign is: Be Bold for Change Now.  The hashtag being used is: #beboldforchange  

We started Reframe Your Life as a podcast for women. Along the way we have been asked, 'Why a podcast specifically for women?"  We believe that women still face conscious and unconscious bias in their homes and work. We talk about our challenges this week on our podcast.

And for the first time, we have a repeat guest. Karen Scian joins us for the conversation (and she brought the wine). This podcast is a real heart to heart for us. We were getting together to catch up and decided to get out the mic and record our conversation. We hope you enjoy it as much as we did!  Find out more about Karen and the great work she is doing at her website.  

Our mission is to help you lead your best life and we are bringing you guests who have influenced and helped us lead our best lives. 

If you enjoy our podcast, please forward it to a friend.  And if you would like coaching around reaching your goals or getting clear on leading a successful life reach out to us. We would love to help you Reframe Your Life.

Jo-Anne & Sandy x

To learn more about Sandy’s business, visit www.sandyreynolds.com and check out her new Change Your Story coaching program for women.

To learn more about Jo-Anne’s business, visit www.couragetolead.ca

Episode 35 | How the moon can help you thrive with Ezzie Spencer

Last week we talked about coaching and mentoring. One of the things a coach can do is help you deal with the fear and negative thinking that holds you back. We share the same challenges as everyone else with sabotaging self-doubt. We have learned to push through those voices in our head. So, when Sandy heard Ezzie Spencer interviewed  on one of her favourite podcasts, she decided to ignore that 'we are too small to have her on our program' voice. Last fall we reached out to Ezzie and were delighted she agreed to be on our podcast. Since then our audience has been growing and we are excited to introduce her to you.

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Ezzie Spencer is an author, speaker and coach. Her first book will be available this week in Australia and we are excited that she now has a deal with a publisher in North America and it will be available here in 2018. The book is called An Abundant Life: Flourishing with the Cycles of the Moon.

Ezzie trained as a lawyer, went on to work in government, nonprofit and research sectors and earned her PhD in women’s well being and justice after violence. Feeling that something elemental was missing in the intellectual world of law, Ezzie began to explore the correlation she noticed between her feelings and the phases of the moon.

Her concept, Lunar Abundance, marries intellect with intuition and has reaped results for many women. If this sounds a little 'woo-woo' to you, trust us, it isn't. Listen to our podcast this week to find out more about Ezzie and learn how a moon practice can benefit you. 

Find out more about Ezzie Spencer at www.lunarabundance.com

Or follow her on social media at:
 
Instagram: @lunarabundance
Facebook: @lunarabundance

Episode 34 | Are you investing in yourself?

It is almost the end of February and we think it is a good time for you to consider if you have the support in place to help you get the results you claim you are looking for in your life.

This week we talk about coaching and mentoring. We discuss how they differ and how they help us. We have both worked and work with coaches and have mentors in our life. We also coach and mentor others. We have learned that those relationships have been key in our lives and we know we wouldn't be where we are without them. 

Answer the following questions:

  1. Do you find it easier to invest in other people before yourself?
  2. Do you feel guilty asking for support in your work or personal life?
  3. Does the voice in your head (we all have one) tell you that you should be satisfied with what you have and not get 'too big for your britches?'
  4. Do you feel like you set goals and then sabotage your chance of meeting those goals?
  5. Do you wish you were doing something different with your life?
  6. Do you lack discipline in reaching your goals?
  7. Are you feeling stuck in your life?
  8. Are you in a transition and not sure what is next for you?
  9. Did you set goals for 2017 and you haven't made any progress at all so far?
  10. Are you ready to learn and take action in your life to start feeling aligned with your true self?

If you answer yes to any of these questions you might be ready for coaching. If you answer yes to more than three questions you would benefit from coaching.

As women, we often put the needs of other people first, we have internalized messages about being too assertive or goal focused. We get it. We have been there ourselves. Listen to this episode and let us know if we can support you in any way. Enlist a coach or a mentor to help you get clear and start taking action on leading your best life. If you still have questions about coaching let us know. We would be happy to host a webinar to answer your questions. In fact, coming in September, we will be offering webinars to our Life Reframers on topics that we will be announcing later in the summer. We look forward to moving forward together.

Our mission is to help you lead your best life. 
 

Episode 33 | How well do you know us?

We know we get to talk about our thoughts on various topics each week. And while you may know our opinions, do you know who we are? We decided it would be fun to interview each other. This week Jo-Anne is interviewing Sandy and finding out a little bit about her background.

Of course 30 minutes isn't enough time so pay attention to our social media feeds this week for more details. If you have any questions specifically for Sandy feel free to post them on Instagram or Facebook.

If a picture is worth a thousand words, this picture should tell you a lot about Sandy! Give her a photo booth and some probs - don't forget the crown - and she is set!

"I did let other people have a turn, honest." - Sandy 

"I did let other people have a turn, honest." - Sandy 

Here are some of the things that Sandy mentioned in her interview:

Refuse to Choose by Barbara Sher. This book really helped Sandy understand that she is just not wired to do one thing for the rest of her life.  If you are doing any vocational soul searching check it out!

Gift from the Sea by Anne Morrow Lindbergh  Sandy has read this book almost every summer since she discovered it 20 years ago.  It is over 50 years old and so full of timeless wisdom for women. Be warned you will want to go live in a beach house after reading it.

My Dinner with Andre - Sandy’s favourite movie. Released in 1981 this philosophical conversation between two acquaintances over dinner challenged me to think about life differently.  Plus I love a good conversation and this move is like eavesdropping on a very interesting evening.

Sandy has used Simon Sinek's Start with Why process to determine her why. It is: To encourage others to live truthfully so that we can heal the world. This sums up several thinks about her. At the heart of her work is a desire to encourage people. She values truth and honesty and helps her clients think about their choices and opportunities for growth by getting honest about what they really want. And she believe we are all connected. The healthier we are as individuals the more likely we will be able to bring healing to a divided and hurting world. If you are curious about your why - get in touch with Sandy. She has a special price available for Life Reframers.  

Here is where you can connect with Sandy. Please join her community.

Visit her website. Check it frequently - She is always adding something new. While you are there sign up for her newsletter. 

She loves Instagram and posts frequently.  Twitter is where she drops in to share her opinions And occasionally you will find her on Facebook.  

Thanks for listening! 

Episode 32 | Who is in control of your career?

If you can't answer the question with a emphatic "I am!" you are in need of some reframing. This week we talk about entrepreneurship, intrapreneurship and other career paths.

Do you dream of being an entrepreneur? Does the idea of no commute, setting your own hours and doing what you love appeal to you? This week on Reframe Your Life we share some insight about the mindset of an entrepreneur.

We started by reflecting on entrepreneurs we admire.

Check out some of the people we admire. Click on each name for more information.

Chris Guillbeau  

Danielle LaPorte  

Richard Branson  

Arlene Dickinson 

REFLECTION:

Before you quit your day job take some time to think about being an entrepreneurs.

Who are entrepreneurs that you admire?

What appeals to you about being an entrepreneur?

Are you an intrapreneur in your organization?

Are you already taking responsibility for your career and development?

Be realistic about it! Building a business takes work!  

REALITY Check

We have created a list of qualities that we believe are essential to being a successful entrepreneur. You can download a copy here. Take some time to work through it and think about areas you might want to develop in.

RELATIONSHIP Check

We have created a worksheet to help you reflect on and identify key relationships that can support you in your entrepreneurial journey. Download a copy here.  

REALIGN:

Change your mindset. You own your career - no matter who your employer is! Take responsibility for your career and your own development.

And please post your business info on our Facebook page or tag us on Instagram. We would love to see what you are doing.

 

RESOURCES:

Here are some books that have inspired us in our businesses:

The 100 Start Up 

The Desire Map  

Start With Why  

Big Magic

And this podcast has been inspiring as well: Being Boss

And if you are looking for places to meet people who share common interests check out Meet Up 

 

Episode 31 | What you need to understand about transitions

 

If change is the only constant then we are always in a period of transition. How equipped are you to handle life transitions?

This week we talk about the difference between change and transitions. Changes are situational. They are events. You bought a house. You got a divorce. Your last child moved out. You won the lottery. These are examples of events that create a change in your life.

Transitions are psychological. On Sandy's website she puts it this way: "Transitions are a call to transformation." They are an opportunity to Reframe Your Life.

William Bridges (the link will be below - don't get sidetracked!) has influenced our thinking on transitions and his model is very useful in understanding what is happening. He says there are three stages in transitions: endings, neutral zone and beginnings. Here is how that looks in your life:

ENDINGS - When a change event happens, something ends. If you get married, you are no longer single. If you quit your job you are no longer employed. Often it is a status that changes and this can be very difficult. You may even be referred to differently to clearly illuminate the change. You are now "a widow, ex-wife, unemployed, patient, student or homeowner."  It is important to recognize that something has ended. 

NEUTRAL ZONE - The Neutral Zone is that place between an ending and a new beginning. It can be brief or it can be a extended time. It lasts as long as it lasts. It can be a creative time and a chaotic time. The Neutral Zone is a time to reflect and think about where you are now (your current reality) and where you want to go or what you want to create in your life. It is an uncomfortable time and can be difficult to explain to people. Many of us want to move through it quickly and are in danger of rushing into the next phase prematurely. (Could explain that guy you dated after your long term relationship ended!)

BEGINNINGS - New Beginnings can be a lot of fun. We've done the grieving and reframing work and now we are ready to step into something new. They are shiny and sparkly. And they make for great conversations and Facebook posts. They can be the reward for digging deep and doing the hard work of ending well and exploring the neutral zone. 

Our best advice for getting through the transitions for everyone who wants to lead and live well: 

1. Treat the past with respect. You can't stay in the past and you need to let go of it but that does't mean you can't honour it. Reflect on what has ended and what you have lost. Even if you chose to end something you still me be experiencing a loss.

2. Recognize that when you are in the neutral zone you will not feel comfortable. Find ways to live in the tension. Be realistic. Pay close attention to the things that you are drawn towards right now.  Think about what you want to create in your work and life. This is a great time to work with a coach or lean into relationships that are supportive. If you are grieving a significant loss this will be a tumultuous time. Be kind to yourself.

3. Celebrate your new beginnings. Enjoy the place you find yourself in and embrace the start of something new. 

If you want to check out William Bridge's work on Transitions click here.  We are in a world experiencing a major transition. We hope that understanding and thinking about how transitions happen can help ease the angst you might be feeling regardless of where you are politically. The transition time is valid. 

Episode 30 | What would a leader do?

If there was ever a week to focus on leadership it is this week. The inauguration of Donald Trump as the 45th President of the United States of America has created a stir in the hearts of many people to step up and begin to take action to be the change they want to see in this world. In essence, people are acting like leaders in their own spheres of influence. It's a good thing!

The truth is that we didn't plan this week to coincide with current events! We talked weeks ago about the topics we wanted to cover and we both felt that we wanted to encourage our largely female audience to lead their best lives. You'll hear us using that phrase more and more in the next weeks. We want to be a voice that encourages and challenges you to lead your best lives. We want to collectively get outside our comfort zones and create the reality we want to see in this world.

We expand our thinking on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter with daily posts to add to and reinforce what we share in our podcast. Be sure to follow us and join in the conversation. The links to our social media accounts are at the bottom of this newsletter. 

As Life Reframers we want to be grounded in our values. Our values are a guide for us in our decision making and in our leadership. Some say that the choices we make reflect our true values not our espoused values. Think about how you are making decisions. And we don't mean just the big decisions! If you say you care about the environment and yet you buy cases of plastic water bottles each week you need to consider how you can align your actions with what you say is important.  

Are you acting consistently?  Are you learning and challenging yourself to grow? Are you trusted? Do you live courageously?  

Links to episodes and resources we discussed this week:  

Motivation episode

Feedback episode

And a book worth reading on leadership (click on book image to purchase):

http://amzn.to/2j9Bf1Q

Enjoy our program this week we are happy to be reframing life and leadership with you. We've got this!

Episode 29 | Tips for Planning for Success

If you were going to rate yourself in achieving what you want to achieve on a daily basis using a scale of 1-10 what would you rate yourself? If you give yourself a 10 (meaning you are doing great and achieving everything you want to in a day) congratulations! Please share your best habits and tools with us on our Instagram or Facebook page! We want to learn from you.

If you are like us, some days and some weeks are better than others. I usually write this newsletter on Monday and then edit and send it on Tuesday. I'm writing it today, the day I send it, because yesterday was probably a 4 or 5 for me in getting everything done on my list. But today is a new day. And I'm not going to let one day ruin my week. So today, I got up earlier and here I am starting fresh!  If you feel like you are off track and it is only the middle of the January, we suggest reframing it! Let go of the guilt and shame you might be feeling about not being successful in making the changes you wanted to make. Start today and take it one day at a time. 

Our podcast this week gives you a look into how we plan our weeks. We can nerd out a bit on planning so if you are resistant to all things scheduled try thinking about what habits and boundaries you can put in place to lead your best life.  Did you know that most people check their smartphones 120 times a day? What would your time be like if you cut back on social media?

Here are some of the resources we talked about:  

Apps:

Toggl - the best time tracking app we know of. Sandy has spent 30 minutes so far writing this newsletter today!  

HeadSpace - the meditation app that Jo-Anne is using to start her day.

To Read: 

The Power of Off: The MIndful Way to Stay Sane in a Virtual World by Nancy Collier

The Power of Habit by Charles Duhigg

To Schedule: 

Passion Planner - if you order one use hello@reframeyourlife.ca in the referral field. When enough people order one we get a free copy to give away.  

Our mission is to help you lead your best life. We will be recording episodes to help you achieve your goals in all areas of your life. If you enjoy this podcast, please forward it to a friend or leave us a review on iTunes. And if you would like coaching around reaching your goals or getting clear on leading a successful life reach out to us. We would love to help you Reframe Your Life.

To learn more about Sandy’s business, visit www.sandyreynolds.com

To learn more about Jo-Anne’s business, visit www.couragetolead.ca