Episode 69 | Find Your People

Highlights of this Episode:

  • We all have a fundamental need to belong. Peter Block calls community the structure of belonging. Most dictionary definitions include the idea of physical place but we now have places of belonging that are not physical.
  • Your community is the place where you feel you belong. It is the relationships you have that form your social structure.
  • According to Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs, after physiological and safety needs are fulfilled, the third level of human need is interpersonal. 
  • Humans need to love and be loved by others. Many people become susceptible to loneliness, social anxiety, and clinical depression in the absence of this love or belonging element. This need for belonging may overcome the physiological and security needs, depending on the strength of the peer pressure.
  • It’s our nature to nurture - You will be a better person for you, and to everyone around you, when you give and receive with people outside of your family. Supporting other women is so rewarding and is the clearest way to receive the support you need when you need it. It just feels good to support others for no other reason other than you want to see them shine.
  • We need accountability - having a community of women can help us keep accountable to ourselves. Surround yourself with people that are D-O-I-N-G something. You need relationships with people who share similar drive and visions in life, love, business, spirituality and personal development. 

You are the sum total of the 5 closest people you spend time with.

  • One person can’t be everything to you.
  • We need people who will tell us the hard truth - people who love us when we screw up and tell us the truth - when we try on those clothes!

How to Build Community:

We suggest many ways to build community and they all fall into one of these three areas. For specific ideas listen to the whole episode.

Think about one way you can build community in each of the areas below:

Invite:   Extend an invitation to spend time to someone that interests you. Take the first step. Extend the invitation. This is taking leadership in your life.  

Join: There are so many places in a community to get involved. You can join clubs, churches, serve on a community board, online. 

Start: If you have a need that is not being fulfilled, start something. Our podcast is a perfect. We have built an international community. 

Resources mentioned:

Community: The Structure of Belonging by Peter Block

Meet Up - A website to find or start a group in your community based on one of your interests. 

Balance Wheel - Identify the areas you want to focus on and then list people you know who can help you grow and develop in each area. 

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