Transition

Episode 81 | Reframing Reframe Your Life (the meta episode)

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We aren't sure if there have been tears after an episode before but there were after this one. We have an open conversation about the challenges and changes in our lives. And we make a couple of big announcements. Thankfully, we have a model to help us think through these things!

Have you ever felt restless or discontent with your work? Even if there are aspects of your work you love, there may be a time when you come to one conclusion - it is time to do something different. In this episode, we walk through our Reframe Your Life model and explore how it applied to a decision Jo-Anne has made to take on a full time job.

Changes have a way of rippling through our life. A change of job can mean a change in another area. Jo-Anne recognized along with her decision to go back to work full time her time commitments would change. We invest a lot of time on our podcast. We both allow several hours each week to record, edit, promote, post and send out our newsletter. Being self-employed makes it possible. Jo-Anne has decided to step away from Reframe Your Life.

This episode is the last one we are recording together as co-hosts. Although Jo-Anne will be back as a guest once she settles in to her new role. If you listened to Episode 78 (Reframe Your Spirituality) you are aware that Sandy has also been going through a pivot in her work. She's focusing more on working with women to support them in their spirituality. Along with that shift she was thinking about starting a separate podcast to go deeper into that type discussion with women.

When we started this podcast, we talked about how it would end (a good practice when starting any type of partnership). We agreed that if one of us wanted to leave and the other wanted to continue on they could continue Reframe Your Life. After some discussion, Sandy has decided to continue with the podcast but take it in a slightly different direction.

Sandy's update: Like all changes, we never know exactly how they will unfold. Clarity comes from action. I have already booked the first guests. Reframe Your Life is going to be reframed. And I think you will like it! The newsletter will continue and it will come through my email address (sandy@sandyreynolds.com). I'm hoping you'll give me a few episodes to find my footing in this new direction before you decide if this direction interests you. Please continue to provide feedback (on iTunes and by email) and guest suggestions. I'm taking the month of June off to redo the website to reflect the changes and to record some episodes. I'll be back in July with Reframe Your Life 2.0

Working together has been on the most fun and rewarding endeavours we have both experienced. It has been a journey that has taught us a lot and bonded our friendship. Thank you so much for your support. See you in July!

The blessing below is from John O'Donohue's book To Bless the Space Between Us  

For a New Position

May your new work excite your heart,
Kindle in your mind a creativity
To journey beyond the old limits
Of all that has become wearisome.

May this work challenge your toward
New frontiers that emerge
As you begin to approach them,
Calling forth from you the full force
And depth of your undiscovered gifts.

May the work fit the rhythms of your soul,
Enabling you to draw from the invisible
New ideas and a vision that will inspire.

Remember to be kind
To those who work for you,
Endeavour to remain aware
Of the quiet world
That lives behind each face.

Be fair in your expectations,
Compassionate in your criticism,
May you have the grace of encouragement
To awaken the gift in the other's heart,
Building in them the confidence
To follow the call of the gift.

May you come to know that work
Which emerges from the mind of love
Will have beauty and form.

May this new work be worthy
Of the energy of your heart
And the light of your thought.

May your work assume
A proper space in your life;
Instead of owning or using you,
May it challenge and refine you,
Bring you every day further
Into the wonder of your heart.

Please note: Reframe Your Life is an Amazon Affiliate and purchases made through links on our newsletter or website help offset some of the costs of the podcast.
 

Episode 70 | Practical Ways to Practice Self-Care

Did you know one of the most used words in 2017 was 'hustle'? We live in a world that values the hustle. Taking time for ourselves feels like slacking off.

On this episode we want to Reframe Self-Care. Here are some reasons that self-care is important:

Self-care prevents burnout

We’ve all been there - you push yourself to the point that you can’t take anymore so you just give up. Self care helps you avoid getting to that point. Self care reduces the negative effects of stress: A small amount of stress can serve a purpose, but after a while, it just breaks down your mind and body. Taking care of yourself means keeping your stress from taking over so you can function at full capacity.

Self-care helps you refocus

When Jo-Anne was stuck on a complicated math problem in school, her teacher would suggest walking away and coming back—taking a break, basically. Breaks are the epitome of self care, and studies show they’re great for helping you perform better.

Self-care is reminding yourself that YOU matter.

It is a way of valuing yourself. Not just a way of getting more done. In other words, self care is not a reward. It’s part of the process. Sometimes we get so used to “rewarding ourselves” with lunch or even a trip to the bathroom, though, that we forget exactly what it means to take care of ourselves.

January can be a difficult month for many people. We need to lighten up the pressure we put on ourselves and show ourselves some love. And show other people some love as well. Tune in to our episode this week for some practical ways you can take care of yourself. And, when you hear someone talking about how unmotivated they feel direct them to our podcast!

Episode 65 | Five plus one ways to end well

Every beginning is a consequence. Every beginning ends something.

- Paul Valery

In order to really change your life, to Reframe Your Life, you are going to need to let go of something. You can’t do the same thing and expect different results. It is the definition of insanity to think life works that way. On our current episode, available now, we talk about some areas where you may have to let go or end things in order to move into what you really want. We know from experience this journey isn’t going to be easy!

William Bridges, in his landmark book on Transitions talks about how when we enter into transition the first step is ending. He says, “The starting point for dealing with transition is not the outcome but the ending that you will have to leave the old situation behind. Situational change hinges on the new thing, but psychological transition depends on on letting go of the old reality and the old identity you had before the change took place.

Here are the five areas we explore in this episode that you will need to end to move forward in your life.

1. Approval: Your need for approval needs to end. When you make a big change in your life there will be doubters, naysayers, and people who don't think you should make the change. People might question your sanity - especially if you are going against the status quo.

2. People that don’t support you: Beyond their approval, you might have people who try to sabotage your change. You may find that you no longer fit with certain people as you change. We often use the quote, "My how you've changed since I've changed." It speaks to this challenge of no longer fitting with people. Your changes will make other people uncomfortable. We get this when we talk about addictions. People who have decided to quit smoking or drinking may not be comfortable hanging out with the group that supported those habits. But this happens in other areas of our life as well. You may find yourself wondering what you ever had in common with someone. It can be tough to move on but you need to make a decsion if a relationship is holding you back.

3. Circumstances: Is there a circumstance that is holding you back? You can't have it all. If you want to travel for 4 months out of the year that may get in the way of building a business or taking a course. You need to assess your reality - is there a circumstance holding you back or a perceived circumstance?

4. Beliefs/Mindsets: What is your belief about ending a new situation? What is holding you back? Do you have questions like, "who am I to do this?" Get clear on why you want to end something. Assess your beliefs and mindsets when ending or beginning something. What are you telling yourself about this change?

5. Behaviours/Habits: You can’t watch Netflix all day! Maybe, like Jo-Anne, you need to end spending a lot of time at the gym doing weights so you can create space for something else - like yoga. Listen to the episode for more details on changing habits to create space for the things you want.

Plus one:

1. Celebrate:  Don't forget to celebrate those victories around endings! You are working hard to live and lead your best life. This stuff isn't easy. Be intentional about celebrating those victories!

As we approach the final month of the year, we want you to think about Reframing 2018. We'll be continuing this conversation over the next two weeks. Start thinking about what you need to end to create space for what you want next year.

Episode 23 | Reframe your death: Begin with the end in mind.

This week we interview Tammy Faulds and learn about her work as a 'crossover coach'. This topic might sound like it is really heavy. In fact, you may experience resistance to even listening to this episode. We want to challenge you to get curious about your response and think about why you shut down when you think about this subject. Lisen as we talk candidly about our own fears about death and dying.

We are also cognizant that we are sending a newsletter to a group and that somone receiving it may be dealing with the topic of death and dying right now in their life. We hope that you find some comfort and perhaps guidance in our discussion. Perhaps Tammy would be a good person to reach out to right now. 

There were a few resources we mentioned and we expect this week to be sharing a lot on social media so make sure you are following us on Instagram and Facebook and join in the conversation. 

Love Liberates


One of the most powerful messages for us, and one that shifted some of our own fears around death, was the idea that 'love liberates'. Watch the video with Maya Angelou here

We also referenced Being Mortal: Illness, Medicine, and What Matters in the End by Atul Gawande. 

Learn more about Tammy and her work

Discover more about Crossover Coaching at Tammy's website.

You can also find her on Facebook and Instagram.