Relationship

Episode 58 | Why Women Need Other Women and Retreats!

If you live in Canada, we hope you enjoyed your Thanksgiving weekend. We have so much to be thankful for in our lives. We are especially thankful this week for the company of women. Our female relationships have been an incredible support in our lives. In fact, we think they are so important we include relationships as part of the Reframe Your Life model.

On our episode this week we talk about being intentional about making time to be with other women. Most of us are busy with work and family and we find it difficult to find quality time to spend with other women.

How intentional are you about getting together with other women?

We both have recognized the value of spending time with other women and have made it a priority to schedule it in. Whether it is for a glass of wine or a weekend away, spending time with women is restorative and refreshing. We received feedback from our survey that you would like a retreat so we have planned one! A retreat is generally a strategic, intentional time away from your normal life to focus on something specific. A good rule of thumb is to plan to get away twice a year. You need to make self-care a priority. We all do.

Here's just a few ways you will benefit from our Reframe Your Life Retreat:

1. Connection - You have an opportunity to spend time with other women who are like minded. Whether you come with a friend or alone you will be spending the day in the company of women who have signed up to do the same thing - put their life on hold for a day so they can focus on themselves. You'll find that spending time with women allows you to connect and share your life experiences. You will meet people you wouldn't normally meet.

2. Get support and feedback - Women like to share their stories and experiences. When you are with a group of women you benefit from the wisdom in the room. And they benefit from your experience. It is powerful and empowering to work through challenges or opportunities with other women.

3. Focus and clarity - You get time to reflect and think about what is on your mind. You won't be responsible for meal planning or picking up after anyone mid way through the day. How often you get to sit and think about where your are in your life and what you want to focus on next?

For more details listen to the whole episode and then click here to go to our retreat page. 

Episode 52 | You've got the power - what are you doing with it?

It happens all too often. It happened yesterday. We do it. You do it. We give away our power. We don't even realize it. But other people do.

Here is Sandy's story about what happened yesterday:

I'm going to change a few of the details so I don't alienate anyone. I was out with a team from an organization that I have worked with in the past. Everyone present was an influencer in the organization. A woman at the table made a comment. She holds a senior leadership role. She said, as she dismissed an idea that was presented that was innovative and had the potential to shake things up, "We have to cater to our investors." I stopped the conversation and challenged her, "If you want to choose to cater to your investors, fine. But own it. You aren't a victim. You are making a choice here."

The truth is, I do the same thing all the time. It's just easier to see it in someone else. We need to be careful about the language we use. There is power in words. We invite you to think about your own power this week as you listen to our episode.

Start by reflecting on these questions:

1. When have you felt powerless?

2. How do you regain your sense of power?

3. When have you felt powerful?

We looked at these areas of power in our lives:

Positional Power - If you have a title that gives you authority then you have positional power. Examples are: parent, manager, fitness instructor, board member.

Relational Power - You can have power because of your relationships. If you are connected to someone in a powerful position you can have power through that relationship. You have power through your networks and the people you influence through relationships.

Personal Power - You have power in your own life. You have power to make decisions To not be a victim. To be the creator of your own story.

What other places of power do you think of? Share them with us!

As women we need to be aware of the story we tell ourselves about our power. We are not victims. We can develop our power in healthy ways.

Here are a few ideas:

Develop resilience: Deal with setbacks and negatives in your life. Learn how to handle adversity. Get support if needed.

Develop your network: There is power in relationships. Connect with the right people. We explored this more in Episode 38.

Keep Learning: Knowledge is power. Formal and informal education can help us increase and understand power in our lives. Being informed about whatever issues concern you can help you regain power. Read books by inspiring people can help you begin to shift your thinking in your life. Listen to podcasts!

Choose your words carefully: Do you say, 'should/have to/must/no choice' often? Reframe it! Every time we turn on the news or look at our twitter feed we can feel overwhelmed with the violence, corruption, threats of war and destruction of the environment. Now, more than ever, we need to own our power and not become victims.

We are in this together!

Episode 38 | Three types of people you need in your life and Two types you don't!

Spring is a great time to do some cleaning and decluttering. Have you ever thought of getting rid of people in your life who are holding you back and zapping your energy? If that sounds really pragmatic or uncaring to you remember that the people you spend time with have a huge impact on your life.

Motivational speaker Jim Rohn puts it this way,

"You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with."

We know that relationships are a big part of reframing your life. If you want to lead your very best life we suggest you make sure you have these three types of people in your life:

1.  Cheerleaders - Do you have people who believe in your potential? Do they encourage you to reach your goals and cheer on your successes?

2. Champions - Do you have friends or mentors who are where you want to be in your life? These people can inspire you and open doors for you.

3. Challengers - Who are the friends or colleagues who push you to do more than you think you can do? They ask you good questions and make you really think about your choices.

We discuss these three relationships in detail on this weeks episode and we also suggest you ditch these two types of people if they are in your life:

1. Critics - If you have people who are always telling you all the reasons you can't do something or sabotaging your efforts - move on!

2. Casual time wasters - It's great to have people who want to just hang out and chill but if you have people who are sucking up your time wanting to hang out and have coffee and aren't doing anything with their lives you need to find some new friends!

Think about the five people you spend the most time with in your life. We hope you have cheerleaders, champions and challengers in your circle. We aspire to be that for our listeners.

Episode 25 | Feelings, Nothing More Than Feelings

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This week we talked about emotions and do we have a lot of feelings about the topic. We will be discussing more of our episode on Instagram and Facebook so make sure to follow us there! 

We know this time of year is full (a great word Jo-Anne introduced us to on our last episode) so this post is short. Enjoy our discussion this week! And make sure to watch the video below. It will make you smile.

If you would like to download a list of feelings and categories it is here.